Friday, July 25, 2008

The Twilight Series - not just for teen girls anymore



Okay, so this is more than a *little* embarrassing to admit. I heard about the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer on Diaperswappers the other day and it had been a while since I'd read a good fiction book. So I sent DH on a scooter errand (he loves those these days) and he picked up the first of the three currently available books, Twilight.

I'll admit that I was thrown off a little when he told me that they sent him to the teen girls section of the bookstore, but I opened it and dove in anyway. I was hooked from page one. It's the wickedly delicious story of a beatiful vampire boy and his soul mate, the very human Bella.



I'm not totally sure what it is about the story that has me so completely entranced, but I've read through almost all three of the currently available books (the fourth comes out Aug. 2) in almost as many days. I've always tended to dive a little deep into books - even in high school I would finish them in a day or two. And of course, in my mind, I am Bella and Edward looks a lot like my husband Jared (but still a lot like Edward, too, though I don't tell my husband that) and Jacob (Bella's dear friend) looks a lot like my friend Bryan (who happens to be dating Beverly Kidd, but that's another blog).

Anyway, so the movie is coming out Dec. 12, 2008 and I am stupidly, embarrassingly excited about it. I've probably snuck a look at the preview 10 times since I started reading the books, which, I might add, are hardly for teens.



Besides the obvious reasons, I like that these books have no cussing or gratuitous sex scenes (which always send me into book-dropping shock in adult novels I've read - just a warning for those of you thinking of picking up Waiting to Exhale) but I do consider it a somewhat steamy series *fans self with hand*. It is certainly no book I'd let my future 14-year-old daughter read! But as for me, a married woman in all her mama glory - it's been a nice escape to the torrential, emotional high school days, and of course, to a vampire world that only exists in my dreams.

I'm posting this so you can enjoy these books as much as I have. Check 'em out and let me know what you think. You can learn more about the series or watch the movie preview online.

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Where Do We Go From Here?


As many of you know, Jared and I have been praying for a move out of Arizona in 2010. This has been our heart for many, many years now and we are believing God to fulfill this dream, as we believe it is his dream, too.

This picture was taken during a few short minutes outside the other day, in the blazing, stupid heat of Phoenix in July. Doesn't his expression just say, "Why do we still live here, mama?"


Anyway, a few possibilities follow, and I thought it would be fun to include the pros/cons we see about the areas. Many of them are completely ridiculous and unfounded I'm sure, but that's what makes this a blog. :)

Canada
In our mind's eye (at least until recently), we thought Canada was the place for us - a hippie-loving place with universal healthcare, gorgeous scenery, a cool climate and lots of extended breastfeeding, cloth-diapering, crunchy Christian parents like us. Not so, according to my friends on Diaperswappers. Apparently Canadians surrender about half their income to the government and wait up to 10 hours to see an ER doctor. It's pretty, sure. But hippie-central? Not more so than the U.S., they say. Just like here, there are cities that are more progressive and "crunchy" and others that are old-fashioned, misinformed and could give a crap about the planet.

Tennessee
For a long time, we thought this is where we would go. My mom lives there and it's a very green, lush area with lots of lakes and rivers. It gets hot and humid in the summer but nice and brisk cold in the winter. You can definitely get your fix of layers there. But the fact that there are no laws protecting breastfeeding mothers from being arrested for public indecency, or for being removed from a public place for nursing a child older than 12 months (even discretely) says it all. Again, my DS mamas from the South have confirmed that it's annoyingly conservative and slow-moving.
Another perk (or so we thought) was that Tennessee is in the Bible Belt, but a few visits there with some of my moms friends have taught us that living in "the Belt" doesn't mean you're surrounded by people who love the Lord, just by people who claim Christianity as their faith in the same way that I claim to be white - I've just always been told I am. An interesting witnessing challenge to say the least, but I'm still not sure TN is for us. :)

Monterey, California
For almost a decade now, Jared has been friends with a wonderful pastor who has been hinting at ministering with him for years. He once pastored here in Arizona and now pastors a church of about 600 in Monterey. We know very little about this area, although one of our hearts' desires about moving is to raise our family in a place with seasons, snow, falling leaves, thunderstorms. From what I know, this doesn't fit the bill. But could we sacrifice those things for year-round sunshine and breezy, beautiful weather? Possibly. But the housing prices there are sky high, even in this economy. Despite his pastor friend's promise that the salary would be scaled up to the area's inflated cost of living, there's still almost no way we could own a home in this area.

Other Possibilities
Lately, I've brought up Wisconsin (not as urban as Chicago, but still close to my parents), Montana (we have a friend whose parents live there and the pictures are to die for), Washington (my sis lived there for a while and we *heart* everything we see and hear about the state, but again the cost of living far exceeds our projected income) and Colorado (not terribly far from Jared's parents, seems to be progressive, more moderate weather).
As you can see, we have no flippin' idea where we're going to end up. But I'm excited to see what God will do to show us the way. He's cool like that, and I know He will. In His own good (definitely-not-my-own) time. :)

Wednesday, July 2, 2008

Dreaming in Memory

So I'm going to diverge a bit from my usual rant of environmental and parenting topics to talk about dreams. That being said, my friend Bryan will deeply appreciate this post for more than one reason. Let it get weird. :)

what do you dream?
I dream A LOT, almost nightly, and vividly. And I usually remember my dreams, too. Some are random, funny compilations of the people in my life, like the one about Bryan and I trying out for the Spring Musical and Jared coaching us as we strained our voices to the tune of "Separate Lives."

But many of them are memories, actual days, moments, whatever, stored up in my brain. It's like I have a file drawer up there full of people, events, emotions, everything, and my subconscious decides, quite randomly, which card will be drawn that night.

And most of the time, as my husband will tell you (and to quote Buster), it's a wild, wild ride.

dreaming in memory
So I'm going to preface this by saying that my husband knows that I dream about past boyfriends and he's fine with it - he even gets a kick out of it.

In my dreams, I find myself remembering days in clear, chronological details I couldn't otherwise remember, like names and faces of people long forgotten, a food I ate, the cologne he wore, etc. Sometimes I am aware that I am dreaming: That this moment, this day, is past. This person is gone from my life - or this world, even - but that I am somehow back with them, if for a moment. And then, just like that, I can choose to stay in that moment and live it in it's entirety all over again.

Jared said I should look it up, this memory dreaming of mine, but I'm writing this before I do that. I guess I'm curious to hear other people's experiences rather that some scientists boring explanation. Besides, I'll choose the "heart" explanation over the "head" one any day.

I once dreamt about being a little girl again, sick with the flu. No one wanted me near them except my beautiful Italian grandfather. In my dream, as in real life so many years ago, I lay my head in his lap and cry because I don't feel good. But in the dream, I'm also AWARE that I'm dreaming, that he's dead now, dead at 52 before a gray hair graced his jet-black, curly haired head. It's terrible.

But more often than not, and thankfully, it's not my dead grandparents that show up in my dreams.

the people I remember
Most of the time, I dream of former friends and old flames. Last night I dreamed about the night I met one of my old boyfriends (If you're reading this - Hi, Brian!) when I was 16. And when I woke up, I not only remembered odd details - like how he ran into the bathroom when he found out how old I was - but I felt like I had just met him last night.

It's hard to explain how bizarre this experience is. The only way I can describe it is the feeling you get when you come home after going out to run errands at night, and when you walk through the door you get hit with the aroma all over again. But you had that meal nine years ago.

It's like their face is burned into my brain again, and I remember all the reasons I cared for them, loved them... (and subsequently, all of the crappy things I did or said to them). The details are so vivid - the smell of campfire on my clothes, the softness of that gray t-shirt, or just feeling so safe... And I wake up knowing I won't be able to get them out of my head until I reach out to them.

I'm sure they find it bizarre, how out of nowhere they get a phone call (at work, in Chicago no less) asking how they're doing. And I find it bizarre, and unspeakably sad, that someone can recognize my voice immediately after more than 7 years, and never return that call.

what it all means. if anything
I'm dying to get my best friend's opinion on this, seeing as how she's a psychologist and all (Post here, Lauren!), about what could trigger these memories and why I feel I can't I move on without contacting these people. Divine intervention? Possibly. Regardless, I pray for them. But that doesn't quell my need - and it does feel like a need - to reach out to them, hear their voice and feel that they're not lost to me anymore.

Luckily I have a beautiful amazing husband who humors me and likes to hear my crazy dreams and the exchanges I have with the people I get in touch with. He's over the moon when I tell him that I dream of him, though it's rare. I guess that's because (get ready to gag) I'm living the dream with him everyday. (Even though he forgets to mention that he's married in Facebook conversations, and plans to flee the country with our son because they'd have the "best chance for survival." LOL)

What do you dream? And what do you think it all means? Am I just a bored housewife who lacks adventure and substance in her life? Or is my heart telling me that I have unfinished business with some very key people from my past? The latter, I hope. My dreams, if nothing else, give me a very deep, almost aching appreciation for the people who have shaped me into the woman I am. Even the wife. The mother.

I'd love to hear your dreams. Your thoughts on this. To find out if I'm unique in my dreaming and what it all means. But most of all, I hope the people I've been dreaming of will someday remember me in the vivid, burning, brilliant detail that I remember them. And feel blessed to have done so.

Friday, June 6, 2008

If you breastfeed...




Saw this on Diaperswappers and I had to share it for all my friends who are currently nursing, have nursed, are planning to nurse... or are just entertaining the idea.
Like I always say, the benefits never end. :)

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR JUST A FEW DAYS, he will
have received your colostrum, or early milk. By
providing antibodies and the food his brand-new body
expects, nursing gives your baby his first - and
easiest - "immunization" and helps get his digestive
system going smoothly. Breastfeeding is how your baby
expects to start, and helps your own body recover from
the birth. Why not use your time in the hospital to
prepare your baby for life through the gift of nursing?

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR FOUR TO SIX WEEKS, you will
have eased him through the most critical part of his
infancy. Newborns who are not breastfed are much more
likely to get sick or be hospitalized, and have many
more digestive problems than breastfed babies. After 4
to 6 weeks, you'll probably have worked through any
early nursing concerns, too. Make a serious goal of
nursing for a month, call La Leche League or a
Lactation Consultant if you have any questions, and
you'll be in a better position to decide whether
continued breastfeeding is for you.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 3 OR 4 MONTHS, her digestive
system will have matured a great deal, and she will be
much better able to tolerate the foreign substances in
commercial formulas. If there is a family history of
allergies, though, you will greatly reduce her risk by
waiting a few more months before adding anything at all
to her diet of breastmilk. And giving nothing but your
milk for the first four months gives strong protection
against ear infections for a whole year.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 6 MONTHS, she will be much
less likely to suffer an allergic reaction to formula
or other foods. At this point, her body is probably
ready to tackle some other foods, whether or not you
wean. Nursing for at least 6 months helps ensure better
health throughout your baby's first year of life, and
reduces your own risk of breast cancer. Nursing for 6
months or more may greatly reduce your little one's
risk of ear infections and childhood cancers. And
exclusive, frequent breastfeeding during the first 6
months, if your periods have not returned, provides 98%
effective contraception.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 9 MONTHS, you will have seen
him through the fastest and most important brain and
body development of his life on the food that was
designed for him - your milk. You may even notice that
he is more alert and more active than babies who did
not have the benefit of their mother's milk. Weaning
may be fairly easy at this age... but then, so is
nursing! If you want to avoid weaning this early, be
sure you've been available to nurse for comfort as well
as just for food.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR A YEAR, you can avoid the
expense and bother of formula. Her one-year-old body
can probably handle most of the table foods your family
enjoys. Many of the health benefits this year of
nursing has given your child will last her whole life.
She will have a stronger immune system, for instance,
and will be much less likely to need orthodontia or
speech therapy. The American Academy of Pediatrics
recommends nursing for at least a year, to help ensure
normal nutrition and health for your baby.

IF YOU NURSE YOUR BABY FOR 18 MONTHS, you will have
continued to provide your baby's normal nutrition and
protection against illness at a time when illness is
common in other babies. Your baby is probably well
started on table foods, too. He has had time to form a
solid bond with you - a healthy starting point for his
growing independence. And he is old enough that you and
he can work together on the weaning process, at a pace
that he can handle. A former U.S. Surgeon General said,
"it is the lucky baby... that nurses to age two."

IF YOUR CHILD WEANS WHEN SHE IS READY
, you can feel
confident that you have met your baby's physical and
emotional needs in a very normal, healthy way. In
cultures where there is no pressure to wean, children
tend to nurse for at least two years. The World Health
Organization and UNICEF strongly encourage
breastfeeding through toddlerhood: "Breastmilk is an
important source of energy and protein, and helps to
protect against disease during the child's second year
of life."* Our biology seems geared to a weaning age of
between 2 1/2 and 7 years**, and it just makes sense to
build our children's bones from the milk that was
designed to build them. Your milk provides antibodies
and other protective substances as long as you continue
nursing, and families of nursing toddlers often find
that their medical bills are lower than their
neighbors' for years to come. Mothers who have nursed
longterm have a still lower risk of developing breast
cancer. Children who were nursed longterm tend to be
very secure, and are less likely to suck their thumbs
or carry a blanket. Nursing can help ease both of you
through the tears, tantrums, and tumbles that come with
early childhood, and helps ensure that any illnesses
are milder and easier to deal with. It's an all-purpose
mothering tool you won't want to be without! Don't
worry that your child will nurse forever. All children
stop eventually, no matter what you do, and there are
more nursing toddlers around than you might guess.

WHETHER YOU NURSE FOR A DAY OR FOR SEVERAL YEARS, the
decision to nurse your child is one you need never
regret. And whenever weaning takes place, remember that
it is a big step for both of you. If you choose to wean
before your child is ready, be sure to do it gradually,
and with love.

*Facts for Life: A Communication Challenge, published
by UNICEF, WHO, and UNESCO, 1989
**K Dettwyler. A Time to Wean. Breastfeeding Abstracts
vol 14 no 1 1994


©1997 Diane Wiessinger, MS, IBCLC 136 Ellis Hollow
Creek Road Ithaca, NY 14850

Wednesday, June 4, 2008

Going Cloth


Our journey into "cloth" began when I worked at BESTFed, a breastfeeding resource store which has since closed. The owner, Susan, cloth diapered and whenever she changed her kids I would say the obligatory "You're so good, I've been meaning to try cloth diapering...(trail off and start straightening slings)"

Giving It a Try
It was my husband who finally kicked my butt into trying it. He heard a sermon entitled "God is Green" by Rob Bell. So he comes home and starts spewing off these facts:
-Disposable diapers make up at least 15 percent of municipal solid waste
-Disposable diapers are the 3rd largest single item contributing to our landfills.
-By the time a child is potty-learned, the average child will go through close to 5,000 diapers and put more than 2.5 tons of waste in our landfills.
-Parents will spend, on average, approximately $3,000 on disposable diapers and wipes from birth to potty-learning.
-It takes 440 to 880 pounds of tree-fluff pulp and 286 pounds of plastic (including packaging) per year to supply one baby with disposable diapers.
-It takes one cup of crude oil to make one disposable diaper, not to mention the oil used and emissions created by the creation and transportation of them to local stores.
Okay, okay, I get it.

Getting Started
On my friend and boss Susan's insistence, I took a trip to Wildflower Diapers in Scottsdale, Ariz. Shannon was incredibly helpful in getting me started trying pocket diapers, which are just as easy to use as disposables, keep baby feeling dry and come in lots of cute colors. Once I found out which kind I like (Happy Heinys One Size for me), I started branching out and exploring prefolds and Snappis (no more pins!), cute fitted diapers (I ordered a Goodmama Switchbox!), and even yummy custom-knit wool shorties and soakers. Needless to say, I'm sustainably addicted. What started as the environmentally responsible thing to do has turned out to be my favorite hobby.

Sustainably Addicted
I think it's safe to say that I'm addicted. I've tried to figure out what it is about CDing that is so darn fun. I love everything about it. I love hanging my laundry out to dry on a clothes line. I love stuffing the pockets and folding the fitteds neatly in a little basket. I love picking out which diaper he's going to wear next. I know, I know: They're diapers. But other CDing mamas will tell you the same thing - there's just something about it.
Still stumped as to what is so addicting about cloth? Here's what I've come up with.
-Women love to shop, but hate to spend money on themselves. It's a way to indulge without really spending it on ourselves.
-We love deals and FSOT sites are great for that. When you find that dream diaper in the perfect fabric for $10 less than it retails for, well, it's exhilarating.
-We are creative by nature. Choosing fabrics for a custom diaper or sending in colorway for a custom wool soaker, and then seeing another mama turn it into something beautiful is really exciting.
-We seek out sisterhood. I love knowing that I'm buying handmade items from work-at-home moms, or swapping diapers with another mama who shares some of the same parenting principles I do. For a mom who works from home and lives far from most of her other stay-home mommy friends, these forums can feel a lot like friendship.

Try It!
If you're even thinking about cloth diapering, I encourage you to try it. You can get started for pretty cheap if you check out some of the more popular For Sale or Trade (FSOT) sites like Diaper Swappers and Diaper Pin.
The biggest challenge for me was figuring out the laundry aspect. You have to use special detergents or you'll ruin your dipes (Country Save and Calgon work well for me). There's a great chart on detergents for cloth diapers, too.
I'm happy to answer any questions you have about cloth diapering. The same goes for breastfeeding or anything else you see me post about on here. I love to give CDing tutorials. Just ask my husband. :) LOL.
Happy diapering!

Cool pic


I worked on this today in Photobucket. Pretty cool. :)

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

Great video

Jared put this video together the other day. We filmed it this weekend at our neigborhood park. The soundtrack is an original score by my incredibly talented husband. :)

Tuesday, May 20, 2008

My Breastfeeding Journey


When I was pregnant, I didn't think there was much of a difference between the breast and the bottle. I kind of assumed breastfeeding was something you did if it worked out for a few months and then you switched to formula. Luckily, God intervened and saved me (and my unborn son) from my ignorance.
A friend gave me a book called "So That's What They're For" and I couldn't put it down. I read it cover to cover and informed my then-visiting mom and husband about every amazing thing breastfeeding can do.
Here are just a few:
-reduces the risk of SIDS, diabetes, obesity, heart disease, multiple sclerosis, asthma, allergies, colitis and crohn's disease as well as certain cancers
-cuts down on number of and duration of illnesses, increases hydration during illness
-increases IQ level, promotes healthy teeth and jaw development, improves speech patterns

sucking it up (pun intended)
Once I learned that these benefits continue into toddlerhood, I made it my goal to make it to one year. And I did.
But it wasn't without a struggle. My first few months I was in more pain (physically) than I have ever been in my life. I had mastitis three times and many times it felt like I had two raw open sores on my chest that my son was sucking on almost on the hour! But the wonderful mommy chemicals released during my mostly unmedicated (until 7 cm) birth helped me stick with it. A breastfeeding support group I attended at a breastfeeding resource store (which I later worked for) was key in getting me through those early months.
Truth be told, I have never met a mommy that will admit that they just didn't feel like breastfeeding or got tired of it or were too selfish to do it. Everyone I have talked to had some major, unbeatable obstacle (supply issues, thrush, mastitis, a medication that wasn't compatible, latch issues, etc) that they couldn't overcome.
The fact is, something like 99-point-something percent of women CAN exclusively breastfeed with hard work and dedication as well as the right information (a lactation consultant).
For me, I knew the benefits of breastfeeding my son would last a lifetime and that no amount of money could buy the emotional and physical benefits I was giving him. So I sucked it up. For moms-to-be: You should, too.

beyond the first birthday
The closer I got to a year, the more silly stopping at a year felt. Breastfeeding River was a part of our day. It's how he liked to wake up and go to sleep, it's what he wanted when he got hurt or scared. Okay, and it was great when Jared and I wanted to watch a show and River was getting uber-fussy. :)
I learned about the benefits of nursing a toddler and about child-led weaning, which normally happens when the child is both physically and emotionally ready to stop nursing on their own.
There are a lot of myths surrounding extended breastfeeding, but let's look at the facts.
-Extended breastfeeding is recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics, which recommends breastfeeding for at least one year and beyond that for as long as both mother and baby desire.
-It's also recommended by the World Health Organization, which recommends nursing for at least 2 years and is considering revising that age to 3.
-And for my lovely Aunt Karen, the AAP says there is "no upper limit to the duration of breastfeeding and no evidence of psychologic or developmental harm from breastfeeding into the third year of life or longer.”

moving on
That being said, breastfeeding is also incredibly environmentally friendly. With no bottles to make or wash, no formula cans to throw away in landfills or transport on our highways, it's easy to see how breastfeeding during the first year can make a big impact on the planet. In addition, postponing the use of cows' milk (I don't give my son any milk) helps our planet, too.
Because of their methane gas emissions, cows play a big role in the destruction of the atmosphere. Overgrazing is responsible for serious ecological troubles, too. On a side note, I don't have to worry about River being exposed to the unhealthy hormones and antibiotics injected into dairy cows.
And, looking back, I guess that was the first earth-conscious choice we made as a family. Breastfeeding. As a mom who just got done rocking and nursing her toddler to sleep I can tell you, what a smart choice it was.

How it all started...


Well, our composter arrived today. Yes, our composter. But before I get to that I was thinking today about how much our lifestyle has changed since the birth of our son. And I'm not just talking about staying in on weekends and working our days around River's naps. We've become "crunchy," earth-conscious, environmentally sensitive, whatever you want to call it. And we've made some major changes as a result.
It seems like a snowball effect. And I think it started with breastfeeding. We've somehow gone from being indistinguishable from almost anyone else our age to being the freaks among our friends and family. So in my next few entries, I plan to chronicle our journey from oblivious Gen-Xers to question-everything hippies.
A little peek into what's to come...
-Exclusive and Extended Breastfeeding
-(Not) Vaccinating
-Cloth Diapering
-Recycling
-Composting
-Solar Panels
-Starting a Garden
-Eating Locally/Organically
Looking forward to freaking out my whole family. :)

Monday, May 12, 2008

Just the Seven of Us


When I decided to follow in my husband's footsteps and start this blog, I asked him what I should call it.
"I don't know," he said. "Think for yourself."
When I told him I had decided on a title, he was a little perturbed.
"Don't make it about us, make it about you," he said. "You make me look like the selfish one."
But my life is my family - my amazing husband, our tiny star of a child, our three crazy rescued cats and our big red failure of a show dog. Not that my husband doesn't love and uphold all these things as precious, too. It's just that since I started staying home after my son was born October 2006, this is my world.
So that's what my blog will be about. Our little (okay, medium) house in Surprise, Ariz., our increasingly "crunchy" lifestyle and the beautiful, bright little soul that we call River.
If you are reading this, welcome. As my husband says, "Let it get weird."